Girl Happy

Girl HappyYesterday morning, as I walked my wife out to the car, I asked her “Guess what tomorrow is?” She looked puzzled for a few moments, made a guess or two. I told her “It’s our anniversary!” She smiled and we twittered back and forth about what to do, settling on getting a pedicure and going to eat a good steak. We smooched and we went off to our day’s work.

When she came home, she announced herself as “It’s your wife, of XX years!” (For identity-theft security reasons, I will only say that it is more than twenty, but less than fifty). We had a task to perform that we usually do together – we sell a product online and every few weeks we have to whip up a fresh batch. She and I just hung out and worked on the new batch, assembling and packaging the items for later sale.

Gemey had spun up a music program on her tablet, it was playing her favorite mix of songs. Before long she entered a state that I call “girl happy.”

There are many levels of positive feelings that a human can experience. One can feel satisfaction from a job well done. One can feel delight when a wee one does something precious. Unbuttoning your pants after an epic meal is yet another.

“Girl happy” seems to be a state where a girl feels safe, secure, loved and pretty all at once. It seems to be the feeling one has when you can have a margarita AND cheesecake, and not worry about being judged by yourself or others. It’s a state of being happy that it seems completely appropriate to sashay and wiggle to a tune. My wife does find her “Girl happy” spot periodically, but not as often as I would like to see, because I love to see it.

This morning I came downstairs. My early-rising wife was getting ready for work, and as is my usual I said something like “there’s my sweet baby.” Her reply was “There’s my man of XX years.”

The girl happy was still there. It made me feel good too.

Our world seems to have turned its back on things like fidelity, commitment and keeping one’s shoulder to the grindstone. My wife has always been a fantastic partner and a good friend. I trust her, and she trusts me. Over the years I have continually worked to be a good husband. Sometimes my husbanding looks like that candle holder I made in art class in 3rd grade…lumpy, misshapen and completely unfit to hold a candle.

Even so, when you smart, beautiful and formidable darling of XX years starts to shimmy and slide to a wonderful, romantic Motown tune when it is just you two, when she exudes the existential joy that is so elusive, perhaps I’ve not done so bad.

Happy anniversary, baby.

On Race and the Trump University Case

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First, let me state that Trump is not my preferred GOP candidate. I find him far less troublesome than the #NeverTrump crowd. I want my president to be thoughtful of the constitution, temperate and to lead by setting a good example – a man who can be thought of well even by those who oppose his party and policies.

Well that ship sailed a while ago, so we have Trump.

The latest of a massive list of controversies is the accusation by Trump that judge Gonzalo Curiel cannot be impartial because the good judge has Mexican heritage…or something like that.

The reaction from all the right people has been to get their skirts over their heads calling Trump a racist. While I wish that Trump would be a bit more thoughtful, the fact is that the man – Trump that is – has a fair point.

Consider this: If a black man accused of a crime is to be tried by 12 white jurors, what is the first thing that comes to your mind? While I personally think the race of a jury ought not matter in most circumstances, the fact is that for DECADES we have been told that in the interests of justice we have to consider the race or the participants, from cops to investigators to jurors and yes, judges.

Now, I think a judge ought to, as a matter or propriety, stay away from politics, especially identity politics where one’s “heritage” is a key factor of one’s influence. I am a Scot, but other than my name and a few gags about being cheap, it is not a key factor of my ability to influence others. Judge Curiel, no doubt a fine man, still has given a boatload of money to the Clinton Foundation, and is an active member of a legal society that is built – not around common factors such as law philosophy or a neutral charity, but rather race. It’s called The Race for pity’s sake.

Minority groups exert enormous pressure on those within it to be “unified” and in our current environment, the dominant “Latino” position is to be hostile to reducing illegal immigration. I’ll not bore you pointing out the rioters  waving Mexican flags at Trump rallies. You are not an idiot.

Judge Gonzalo Curiel decided long ago to make his ethnicity a key component of his influence, signalling some kind of political and/or racial solidarity with the greater Latino community. Now that Trump is in a heated contest with Clinton, I think it is perfectly reasonable to take the Judge at his word that he makes his something of a priority and expect, much less ask, that he recuse himself. The judge has nobody but himself to blame.

The identity politics of the Left has brought us to this place where one citizen suspects the fairness of perspective of another if the heritage between them is an insufficient match. Don’t blame Trump for following the rules they laid down.

On Dress Codes

DressCodeA young woman is scandalized when her school makes her wear a t-shirt over her outfit. Her dress code violation is a visible bra-strap. So outraged is she that she takes a Sharpie to the t-shirt and writes out a screed in defense of freedom and against body shaming. Take that, shamers!

Human beings are capable of reason, but we are not driven 100% by reason. In a world where everyone was reasonable, a woman could walk naked and be in no danger whatsoever from unwanted attention.

We do not live in that world. Continue reading On Dress Codes

Transgender Madness

BruceJennerWheatiesThe world is all ga-ga over Caitlyn Jenner – formerly Bruce Jenner – who has become a poster-child for the transgendered. Jenner, over the course of a few years and man surgeries has transformed himself superficially into the form of a woman.

A friend of mine reflected on an associate who had undergone a similar process. He went abroad for the surgeries, spending a great deal of money. Post-operations, talks with my friend – a woman by birth – revolved around “girl talk.” As my friend described the “girl talk” it sounded like what a guy thinks is girl talk rather than the things that girls actually talk about.

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Welfare Freeloaders

FB_WelfareFreeloadersWhile discussing the failure of government at helping the poor, my interlocutor implied that I was focused on the welfare queen and perhaps did not realize (or did not care) that “conservative” reforms would wreck the lives of those in need. Quite the opposite.  The welfare queens are not the recipients of transfer payments in the form of food stamps and section 8 housing allowances, but the government itself.

If a pharmaceutical company makes a 7 million dollars in profits on 100 million in revenue, the political leftward leaning lose their mind and denounce these companies for profiteering on people in need, even though on average most large companies have to live on 7% profit margins. Continue reading Welfare Freeloaders

The Good Muslim

Koran / Quran - Whatever

I am a fundamentalist Christian.

Not a very good one, mind you. While I believe the Bible is the inspired word of God, far too often I take the precepts within its pages as suggestions rather than commands. I think if I were more obedient I would be more patient, more kind, more generous. I would have more courage to speak the truth and more wisdom to speak it gently.

A fundamentalist Christian should, over time, be more like Jesus of Nazareth. Think what you may about His claims to deity and salvation, Jesus is universally understood to be a good man.

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Cliven Bundy’s Comments on Race – Unedited

This is supposedly the unedited version of the comments made by Cliven Bundy:

Cliven Bundy - Photo Business Insider…” and so what I’ve testified to ya’, I was in the WATTS riot, I seen the beginning fire and I seen the last fire. What I seen is civil disturbance. People are not happy, people is thinking they did not have their freedom; they didn’t have these things, and they didn’t have them.

We’ve progressed quite a bit from that day until now, and sure don’t want to go back; we sure don’t want the colored people to go back to that point; we sure don’t want the Mexican people to go back to that point; and we can make a difference right now by taking care of some of these bureaucracies, and do it in a peaceful way.

Let me tell.. talk to you about the Mexicans, and these are just things I know about the negroes. I want to tell you one more thing I know about the negro. Continue reading Cliven Bundy’s Comments on Race — Unedited

GOP Health Care Reform #3 -Improve Health Insurance for the Sick Without Messing Up Insurance for the Healthy

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Health insurance is expensive enough when you are healthy. When you are sick – especially when you have a chronic illness like Chron’s disease or juvenile diabetes – insurance can be very expensive. If you are lucky, your employer has enough employees so that insurance is available and affordable. If you lose your job, you could be out of luck, paying thousands per month.

Obamacare is trying to address this problem by forcing young and healthy people to buy insurance on the Federal marketplace. The plan is to spread the risk of sick people and older people over large groups seeded with younger, healthier people. So far? Fail. Continue reading GOP Health Care Reform #3 -Improve Health Insurance for the Sick Without Messing Up Insurance for the Healthy

GOP Health Care Reform #2b – Save on Health Care by Saving For Health Care

Save on Health Care by Saving For Health Care

If a significant percentage of shoppers at a supermarket paid a flat $300 month for all the groceries they wanted, plus a $20 “co-pay” for each supermarket visit, how long before the supermarket stopped carrying top-shelf ingredients and everything became plain-label products?  How careful would they be about not wasting food at home? How long could the supermarket keep monthly “premiums” at $300? Continue reading GOP Health Care Reform #2b — Save on Health Care by Saving For Health Care